When Deb and i got together more than six years ago, at some point, our spirituality or lack thereof, came up in conversation. We were both "recovering Catholics" (i know some of you out there hate that term, but this is my blog...), and i'd had a horrible experience with what i call, "a very strict, bible-based, cult-like church". My experience was so horrible (to me, at that time), that i literally planned my "escape" and then had people show up on my Dad's doorstep, where i had escaped to. My experience was so horrible that i no longer prayed, no longer believed in a higher power, no longer even cared to step foot into a church. However, i knew there was something missing, and so did Deb.
In the course of our conversation, i mentioned to Deb that a former boss of mine in Massachusetts, had mentioned at some point, that her parents belonged to a
Unitarian Church and that she thought i might like it. At that time, the pain of my time in the cult was still too fresh and i just couldn't even stand to think about going to any church. As the years passed and time healed some of my pain, i brought it up to Deb and we looked into it.
When we started to consider attending a
Unitarian Universalist Church, we were living in NW Indiana. Luckily, we found one.
The First Unitarian Universalist Church of Hobart, IN.
On our very first visit we nearly fell out of the pews. The Minister,
Rev. Roger Brewin, during the course of his sermon, mentioned that he was an atheist. Huh? Yup. You read that right! Our jaws dropped as we looked at each other. (And after the service Deb asked what i had gotten her into?) A bit further into the sermon, Roger mentioned that he was a
Humanist...and that was explained, which was good, because i had never heard the term before. At any rate, even after that first Sunday, we decided to continue attending and eventually made First UU our spiritual home. We decided that although we were not sure where our spiritual paths would lead us, we were sure that this was the place to figure it out. I'd like to be able to say that we've found our paths, but that would be just plain silly. I really do feel that a person's spiritual path grows and changes until our physical bodies part from this earth.
When Deb and i moved away from Indiana one year ago, the hardest part for both of us (i think), was leaving behind the friends we had made at First UU. This small congregation of about 100 people, had really become a family to us. They taught us, befriended us, supported our relationship, were there for
our Commitment Ceremony, learned with us, and we - in turn - shared our lives with them. When we moved a few of our friends put together a lovely going away party, a party we lovingly refer to as NOT a "goodbye" party but rather a "buzz off" party. Because, afterall, it was not really goodbye...it was buzz-off, until we see ya for
campout in July. LOL!!
A year later and i'm still stinkin' crying as i type because i miss everyone so much. And also, because i miss the fellowship and community of like minded people. That's not to say that there are no like minded people where we live in Maryland but, we just haven't found "our home". We've visited two different UU Churches here and we're just not sure about either one. The closest of the two, the atmosphere is very homey and i really like the people but, the minister is very soft spoken and monotone and he puts Deb to sleep every time. The second church is a lot farther for us to drive to, so even though we think we might like it better, we just could not afford to get ourselves there on Sunday's...not to mention to any other events that might meet during the week as a greater extension of their UU community, especially when gas prices were $1 more earlier this year .
I have to admit, i'm very sad...and a bit lonely, even. I'd like to have a church home, build some relationships and get involved. I really don't like being mobility challenged, unemployed and so isolated. Honest, i don't. Thank the Goddess that i have my wool and needles to keep me company, eh?
At any rate, this post has taken on a turn that i really had not intended when i sat down to type. Odd that. I had really sat down to write a brief little thing about our church back home as a way of inviting you to check out ,
uuMomma, a friend's new blog and to check out her latest post; a "punishment" of sorts in where the TV and PC have become very limited to the children of the house...and good things are happening. ;)
I think i'm going to go get some coffee. It seems needed. And also a hug from my wife. And then i'm going back to
Fetching #1 and then on to #2. Those baby's will be done by day's end!
~Suz~